My eyes are drawn to the right :)
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
That seems pretty simple right? As I encounter more and more people in my life and see through them despite their convoluted fronts, I realize more and more often that no one lives this way, most do not even try to. Their decisions are very self pleasing and not at all sacrificial. Marriages would thrive if this were not the case. Friendships would grow. Even those of us that make an effort at it fall short, because it is an impossibly unrealistic goal without a complete giving over of our every desire. Would we not all always wanted to be treated with kindness and respect despite the demographic of the person we are in contact with? Why does that change when the shoe is on our foot?
We are by nature selfish, regardless of what we want to admit, and will always desire “stuff”. We will also always be able to make excuses and justify any action. We are created this way and we have to fight against our nature in order to complete this “golden rule” handed down to us. It is SO easy to revert back to jump on the defensive, justify our behavior, and explain why it is best for everyone – when we know it is only ourselves that we are thinking of. In my most recent of experience, I firmly believe in the ripple effect of kindness and sincerity. However, the genuine is the key – people see right through the fake. How do you get to the place of genuine caring? Get over yourself and what you want and look at what is best in every situation, not just the ones you feel like putting your energy into. It will change your world.
I hate that it all seems right in our head at the time; passion and frustration and anger and other emotions should not be what determines our actions, but it so often does. However, there is more to it than that. It is about a total disdain for doing something to make other people more comfortable or accommodated in everyday life. Sure, we are great when guests come over, and even go out of our way, but when it is our roommates or the important people in our lives we should not have to bend over backwards to please them right? Wouldn’t that be more significant? We fall into a rhythm that we cannot escape. Break that mold. Try something new. Experience life with the same people in a different way. Show them how much you care. Do not just assume they know.
Do you like getting mail? Send it! Do you love a text telling you that you are cared for? Send one. Do you enjoy a surprise at your door step? Leave one. Stop putting off for tomorrow what can be done today. Do things to make others smile, and expect nothing in return, and reap the benefits of joy. It will make you smile doing something someone does not expect. I encourage you to take another step and surprise strangers. Think outside the box. Keep life fresh.